Silent Bells

Emotional Abuse. For a man. Isn’t all that common.

OR IS IT? A coachee of mine wrote this. You should breathe it in…


I smiled.
Even when it stung my pride, leaving deep bloody sores of shame.

I smiled.
As each adjective unmasked the monster she saw in me.

I smiled.
Inside,  there was heat, there was pain, but I couldn’t raise my voice (or my hand).

They would call me weak.
And there were no scars to tell the full story.

I smiled.
But deep inside it choked my little embryo of happiness.

Emotional abuse just doesn’t ring the right bells.
All I can do is smile.

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Every blogger needs to read this


Your actions make it seem like it was.


3 ways to get great pictures for your blogHow do you feel when you see bloggers who write posts and get 20 comments, 100 shares and even gets endorsement deals because of their blog. It makes you wonder what you are not doing right.

We saw this quote and we were encouraged and being the great people that we are, we have decided to share. This quote was shared by Darren Rowse.  He said

99.9% of great bloggers are not awesome on day one. Their awesomeness is the accumulation of the value they create over time.”

How profound is that? 

This means that you have no business getting envious of other bloggers and their successes because they have done so much work overtime to get to that point. You can’t be blogging for one month and expect the same results as someone who has been blogging consistently for one year. 

No blogger becomes perfect by writing…

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Better Soup, Na Money Kill Am!


Some days, when I flashback to when my second paid training, I laugh.
It is funny now but it wasn’t funny then.

I had been ardently following a writing authority online for a while. And I thought I knew where my loyalties lay. Until he started promoting a 21-day training he was to hold.

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I remember when a former schoolmate posted on Facebook about how he had gotten a chance to photograph an ex-president, Olusegun Obasanjo.

As my eyes fed on his post, I thought to myself, ‘This is mind-blowing’. If only I had known that I would soon get my very own meeting with one of our ‘heroes past’.

Just today, at a book launch with my colleagues and editor from Kachifo Limited, I saw him walk in.

White beard. Northern Cap. Soft eyes. This man had seen and ruled the Nigeria of yesterday. He had seen the coups and wars. He had seen the military regime we sometime wish we could return to.

As my phone camera flashed with each snapshot I took of him, later to be uploaded to our company’s social media platforms, I smiled.

Who would have thought this would have been experienced by a ‘mere’ writer like me?

A mere writer who had chosen a less noisy publishing house above the hustle and bustle of the digital agency industry.



This was a topic one of the writers in the ‘Build Your Writing Confidence’ Whatsapp Group asked me to write on.

This is a tough one. Mostly because, *in Pete Edocie’s voice* ‘it izznt easy’. Being an active blogger (one that posts at least every two days) while having a 9-5 job is like juggling 10 balls. It is wise to learn how to juggle then.

Before I began working at a book publishing house, I had a 9-5 job in a digital ad agency (growth-hacking agency if you know what that is o). It was extremely demanding. So much that the blank page that I was usually excited to write on became a luxury I couldn’t afford. I envied other writers who had plenty time on their hands…

Until an angel in Igbo form and social media guru, Emeka Nobis let me in on a secret – He shared how he had also been in the same dilemma some years ago and how he made use of every single spare time outside the office to write stories and articles. I got down to it. En route work, en route home, lunch breaks, weekends, ‘White House’ time… I would write. That’s YOUR answer.

Write your blog/ vlog articles for the week, as well as set aside the accompanying images on the weekend so that all you have to do when your blog post is due is press the ‘Post’ button.

Be consistent with this and watch your productivity as a blogger or writer shoot through the roof! For more ‘writer-muscle’ tips, check out the other recent posts.

If you’d be interested in the ‘Build Your Writing Confidence’ Whatsapp Group (it is simply to build your writing confidence. Shikena), join here 


coffee    shock

Yesterday, I went on an impromptu outing with my uncle. It was to an exhibition for Made In Nigeria products where one of their friends would be selling her products. Being the creative that I am (tending to disregard schedules most times and embrace spontaneity), I happily agreed. Five minutes later, we arrived at the venue.

After spotting about two Ankara fabric stands, I immediately knew it had been a good decision to come, mostly because I and Ankara craft have entered into a blood covenant (it’s that serious).

As we glided through the different stands, I was again confronted with the usual ‘expensive handmade products’ brouhaha. Being a handmade crafter, myself, I began to wonder- what is it we can we do to reduce the costs so our artsy products can enter the hands of our eager customers?

I know what it means to spend painstaking time gluing, bending, wiring and creating these products and then being questioned by customers why the monetary value of the handmade product is so high. I also know how it feels to fall in love with a handmade product, only to be told that it is 9,000 naira. Simpu Ankara jacket.


As I returned back to my uncle’s friend whose exhibitions stand touted organic cosmetics. When I saw ‘Coffee Scrub’ amongst the products, I got confused o. Will this one go in a mug or on the face??

I was struck with her unique marketing strategy; which was quite simple and effective – Caring About Customers. The way she drew the customers in was like honey drawing bees. A free sample here, a discount there, some free cosmetic advice…

Sell, she was trying to do. But not at the expense of her customers’ needs, wills and feelings. In this ‘money-crazy’ times, that’s something to think about.

Animations and Writers’ Life Lessons


It is possible that my latest life lessons might be drawn from animations now…

I watched ‘Moana’ over the weekend. Its an animation film that centers around a young island girl who can’t seem to get over her love for the sea. Unfortunately, her dad, the village chief places a limit on that love – none of them on the island are allowed to go beyond a certain point of the sea.

In that movie, I learnt something about reluctant writers. Read More