Silent Bells

Emotional Abuse. For a man. Isn’t all that common.

OR IS IT? A coachee of mine wrote this. You should breathe it in…


I smiled.
Even when it stung my pride, leaving deep bloody sores of shame.

I smiled.
As each adjective unmasked the monster she saw in me.

I smiled.
Inside,  there was heat, there was pain, but I couldn’t raise my voice (or my hand).

They would call me weak.
And there were no scars to tell the full story.

I smiled.
But deep inside it choked my little embryo of happiness.

Emotional abuse just doesn’t ring the right bells.
All I can do is smile.

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I had a conversation with someone yesterday.  She had a problem with 

She had a problem finding words to express herself. I immediately asked the obvious question.

‘Do you read?’ ‘No. I read only academic texts’.  

I almost fainted…on phone. It is impossible to breathe out without breathing in. So it is with reading before writing. You may write, but your writing will never be rich if you don’t read,  CONSTANTLY.  Read More

Every blogger needs to read this


Your actions make it seem like it was.


3 ways to get great pictures for your blogHow do you feel when you see bloggers who write posts and get 20 comments, 100 shares and even gets endorsement deals because of their blog. It makes you wonder what you are not doing right.

We saw this quote and we were encouraged and being the great people that we are, we have decided to share. This quote was shared by Darren Rowse.  He said

99.9% of great bloggers are not awesome on day one. Their awesomeness is the accumulation of the value they create over time.”

How profound is that? 

This means that you have no business getting envious of other bloggers and their successes because they have done so much work overtime to get to that point. You can’t be blogging for one month and expect the same results as someone who has been blogging consistently for one year. 

No blogger becomes perfect by writing…

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Better Soup, Na Money Kill Am!


Some days, when I flashback to when my second paid training, I laugh.
It is funny now but it wasn’t funny then.

I had been ardently following a writing authority online for a while. And I thought I knew where my loyalties lay. Until he started promoting a 21-day training he was to hold.

I snapped. Read More


I remember when a former schoolmate posted on Facebook about how he had gotten a chance to photograph an ex-president, Olusegun Obasanjo.

As my eyes fed on his post, I thought to myself, ‘This is mind-blowing’. If only I had known that I would soon get my very own meeting with one of our ‘heroes past’.

Just today, at a book launch with my colleagues and editor from Kachifo Limited, I saw him walk in.

White beard. Northern Cap. Soft eyes. This man had seen and ruled the Nigeria of yesterday. He had seen the coups and wars. He had seen the military regime we sometime wish we could return to.

As my phone camera flashed with each snapshot I took of him, later to be uploaded to our company’s social media platforms, I smiled.

Who would have thought this would have been experienced by a ‘mere’ writer like me?

A mere writer who had chosen a less noisy publishing house above the hustle and bustle of the digital agency industry.



Hello Mr Writer,

Have you realized yet that you are sitting on the money you claim to NOT have? Let me explain why.

Firstly, you should know that every company needs you. Words are needed in every organisation; to communicate with employees, to persuade customers in adverts, to build a particular personality for a brand, etc. Brands can only get into the hearts of their potential and present customers through the persuasive power of words (Including spoken words in videos).

Here is an example of  such a product or brand review article that you can be paid for. Brands need this! :


It started during the mandatory National Service Year.

I started to see some cake activity on my Timeline. The activity was very obvious because it was coming at a time where 19,800 naira was the monthly salary, so I was accustomed to window shopping products online – I would simply salivate or gawk and move on.


Back to the cake activity. I soon realized that these gorgeous cakes were being made by two friends of mine. They were youth corps members, like me, back then. Knowing that these cakes were closer to home, I salivated even more.

After we rounded off that year, I continued to behold this activity, but alas! The cakes are only available in other cities – Akure and Ibadan while I am in Lagos state.

However, if you are in that city… Whoooo! You are lucky!
It means you have the chance to enjoy divine cakes and pastries by Creamy Tops, owned by my two buddies – Oluwatoyin Fadipe and Oluwatooni Ige.

You can buzz them on 08076952991 or inbox them at Creamy Tops to order! Don’t sit on this o!


Here is a screenshot of the Facebook post:

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This was a topic one of the writers in the ‘Build Your Writing Confidence’ Whatsapp Group asked me to write on.

This is a tough one. Mostly because, *in Pete Edocie’s voice* ‘it izznt easy’. Being an active blogger (one that posts at least every two days) while having a 9-5 job is like juggling 10 balls. It is wise to learn how to juggle then.

Before I began working at a book publishing house, I had a 9-5 job in a digital ad agency (growth-hacking agency if you know what that is o). It was extremely demanding. So much that the blank page that I was usually excited to write on became a luxury I couldn’t afford. I envied other writers who had plenty time on their hands…

Until an angel in Igbo form and social media guru, Emeka Nobis let me in on a secret – He shared how he had also been in the same dilemma some years ago and how he made use of every single spare time outside the office to write stories and articles. I got down to it. En route work, en route home, lunch breaks, weekends, ‘White House’ time… I would write. That’s YOUR answer.

Write your blog/ vlog articles for the week, as well as set aside the accompanying images on the weekend so that all you have to do when your blog post is due is press the ‘Post’ button.

Be consistent with this and watch your productivity as a blogger or writer shoot through the roof! For more ‘writer-muscle’ tips, check out the other recent posts.

If you’d be interested in the ‘Build Your Writing Confidence’ Whatsapp Group (it is simply to build your writing confidence. Shikena), join here